Wedding Bells?

So Adam and I never had a "real" wedding. The day we got married we literally rolled out of bed, put some jeans and a t-shirt on and went to the courthouse alone. We were so tired and sleepy (this was the day after he graduated basic/AIT and we didn't get home til 4 a.m. and by the time we got to sleep we maybe had 3 hours of sleep on top of jet lag from flying from Kentucky to Oregon) I don't even remember what vows they used. Which sort of depresses me. And if I can't remember, I know he can't. So anyway, we've always said we'll do the quickie so we can afford to be together and then do a real wedding like, the next summer. Well 2 years later and we still haven't even started planning. We keep saying "we need to start planning". He says it too. Actually he says it more often than I do lol. But anyway, I'm finally going to start. But the question is where do I begin? I already know I want it in the summer, and our wedding anniversary now is August 3rd. But we are going to want to party and the next time August 3rd falls on a weekend is 2012, on a Friday. 3 years from now. Which that's good, gives us time to save and plan, but its so far away! I really don't want to wait that long. So here's my dilemma, I think once we figure this out everything will be easier: Do I wait and have it on our anniversary? Or do we just pick a date and not wait? And then where? Unfortunately, Adam doesn't have a ton of family and friends to invite like I do, so it'd make more sense to have it in Washington...and there are a few places that would be pretty enough. I just don't really want it in Washington. Here is what I want:

Big wedding at the Royal Hawaiian Hotel in Waikiki Beach in Honolulu, HI. I want to mix party with elegant and intimate. I want an amazing photographer who's pictures will look like they belong in an art museum and a great DJ who can play music that will get everyone on the dance floor. Then I want a honeymoon at a Sandals resort. A room with one of those private pools and it's all-inclusive.

Buuuut, my dream and my budget don't go hand in hand. The Royal Hawaiian is expensive and not everyone will be able to fly to Hawaii. Although just to get married in Hawaii, I'd be ok with a small wedding. The amazing photographer will cost me all my limbs. I have friends who are great photographers, but I want them to have fun, relax and let loose. Not worry about getting tons of pictures for me. The DJ would be the only easy deal out of it. Then the honeymoon, what I want is $6000+ easily.

I need to win the lottery.